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The Tenth Love Letter...


I struggle with my relationship with writing.

It brings me so much joy and yet it tortures me like Chick-fil-a on Sunday.

As many fellow writers do, I googled, "How to be a writer."

While there are a plethora of tricks and unique habits writers adopt, the most prominent and consistent "trick" is:

Write Something *Mostly* Every Day

Seems almost laughable. I despise this piece of advice, though, because it's not The Magic Pill.

I'm an impatient millennial -- gimme the pill!

Who knew the best way to become a better writer is to... write?!

So that's what I'm trying to do. I'm committed to writing a book, but the caveat is I'm not putting a timeline on my completion date. I'm not actively searching for an editor, publisher, etc.

I'm simply in the gathering-all-the-goods phase.

While I have an idea about what direction I want my book to go in, I'm not setting boundaries and I'm open to it changing along the way.

One of the greatest pieces of writing advice of all time is from Anne Lamott (
Bird by Bird). She says, "...the only way I can get anything written at all is to write really, really shitty first drafts."

To accomplish my dreams of writing a book, I will let the words out of the gate and herding them later.

I will embrace the shit!



Having recently moved into a new home -- that's not military base housing! -- I wanted to curate a home that's functional yet peaceful; a place I can easily maintain, yet showcases my personality.

The key to achieving this was patience.

I didn't throw things on the wall for the sake of "getting it done". I took my time, letting the placement of pieces settle in.

And if I didn't like something, I changed it instead of settling out of sheer exhaustion.

My favorite thing in my home is the book wall. While the original idea of nailing books isn't a novel idea, the execution and artwork is mine.

Using my late grandmother's hymnals, along with some fantastic thrift store literature finds, I pieced together a mural of music notes and words.

It's true that art is a process, not a production.

The cathartic fun lies in the act of putting the wall together rather than the finished result.

I was filled with joy thumbing through the pages, stumbling upon words, stories, and phrases that reminded me of people and memories.

Almost every page displayed on the wall has a personal reason behind it.

Ultimately, I set out to create a space that makes me love coming home -- and I did just that.

& just so you don't think I Have It All Together, here's a picture of my messy and still unpacked garage, because: Balance
Related: Outer Order, Inner Calm by Gretchen Rubin and The Cozy Minimalist by Myquillyn Smith


In a world where people hide behind filters and phone screens, we are losing sight of who people genuinely are.

I'd like to think that as we get older we realize authenticity wears prettier than a new dress.

Don't get me wrong, sometimes that new dress is important too, but I want to be careful about how often I appear to have it all together.

Yes, I maintain a cozy and clean home, but I also shove shit in my garage and closets in hopes little house fairies will magically put it all away.

Yes, I cook meals from scratch for my family, but I also order take-out and make Bisquick pancakes and absolutely dread and curse meal-planning and shopping every single week.

Yes, I love going to the gym, but I also eat Insomnia Cookies while watching Netflix at

Yes, I wake up at
5:15am to pray and journal, but I also take a 15-minute power nap in the car before picking my kids up from school.

Yes, I am out and about socializing, but I also take anti-depressants and desperately miss my dad to the point where I take an Adult Time Out in the middle of the day.

But that's life, right?!

We were put on this earth to be vulnerable, honest, communal, empathetic, loving, and transparent.

Let's do life together, friends!

So, tell me, what things are you currently loving & learning? And how can you be more transparent?

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