We watched the memorial service for Santa Cruz Sheriff Deputy Damon Gutzwiller, 38, and it was overwhelmingly sad. A white supremacist murdered the deputy in Ben Lomond, June 6. He had a 2-year-old son, Carter, and his wife, Faviola, has a baby due this month. You can see the memorial at the Cabrillo College football field here and here
There are no words to describe the sheer horror and sorrow. Trying to peel back the clouds of sorrow, Twin Lakes Church Pastor Rene Schlaepfer summed it up by saying that Damon Gutzwiller “left the world a better place.”
Growing Up writer and ad salesperson Linda Kay, who is rooted in religion, ethics, and spirituality, wrote an advice column on how to deal with grief in our June issue.
“Grief is a strange thing,” she writes. “It expresses itself in a variety of ways: shock, anger, helplessness, profound sadness, depression, acceptance – and then repeat.” She says people on the West Coast try to push aside grief, which only compounds the pain.
“While it is admirable to try to give your children the best, it is important to give yourself some grace. As posted by tinybuddha.com, “And if today, all you did was hold yourself together, I am proud of you.”
If you are feeling sad or depressed, this column can help.