What we perceive about ourselves is greatly a reflection of how we will end up living our lives.
~ Stephen Richards
Happy Friday <<First Name>>.
There is a question I have been meaning to ask you. It’s this: do you pay attention to your own actions, behaviours, decisions, emotions, inactions and thoughts?
While stacking up better habits, we develop our cues into routines. And routines are easy spots to get into a mindless tedium. You’d repeat one action after the other without ever stopping to reflect.
It’s good to pause and think from time to time. You should ask yourself questions like: Is my routine still aligned with my goals? Will I achieve what I set out to achieve if I continue like this? What do I need to change?
Let us examine a morning routine habit stack that James Clear used in his book, Atomic Habits. James Clear says:
- After I pour my morning cup of coffee, I will meditate for sixty seconds.
- After I meditate for sixty seconds, I will write my to-do list for the day.
- After I write my to-do list for the day, I will immediately begin my first task.
This habit will continue into an afternoon routine, transition into another day after the evening routine and the cycle will just go on and on.
<<First Name>>, even in the midst of chaos and/or overwhelming issues of life (that you cannot control), we choose to hold the fort! It’s the right thing to do. However, it is necessary that we periodically make sure to pause, untangle and sort things through careful writing and observation.
Careful writing and observation?
Yes! It’s no longer news that I am strongly pro – note taking. I believe you can write your way out of confusion.
It is important that you create a system that keeps you in check. You automatically identify intrinsic and extrinsic factors that influence your actions, behaviours, decisions, emotions, inactions and thoughts.
If you want true growth, it is not enough to identify your default beliefs and reaction to things. The onus is on you to separate these things from your true self and issues.
Call to Action: Be open, observant and objective about self – reflection.
To be open, observant and objective is a tough call. This is because, it requires you to see things for what they really are. It is quite important that you identify your own default beliefs and biases about things.
You need to keep tabs on your thoughts, observe yourself and take note of your decisions. The truth is that, when you see things clearly, you are one step away from taking the right decision.
To periodically self – reflect is an opportunity to strengthen your ability to make decisions.
When you come up with a to – do list, don’t just tick off accomplished tasks. It is important that you identify critical challenges and strengths. You need to identify what you are doing right and what you need to improve. This automatic response to your weekly activities clarifies your thinking in the middle of a routine.
For example: I block 30minutes to journal my day and another 30minutes to self – reflect. I do this on Mondays – Saturdays. And on Sundays, I take ample time to think things through and define my actions for the new week. I call this a therapy to focus.
I’d advise you pick a consistent day and time of the week. It will sharpen your intuitive focus on important tasks as you deal with distractions.
You can start with one day of the week. Self – reflect and see what you can do better.
Q: Why police your thoughts from ideation to fruition?
Here’s why - Life happens and above all else, your heart is your source of life.
Every issue flows out of it. Pay attention so you may gain understanding. Be mindful of every action you take.
If you want to eat, be mindful of it!
- If you want to write, be mindful of it!
- If you want to sleep, be mindful of it!
- If you want to self – reflect, be mindful of it!
One more thing, <<First Name>>, when the resultant effect of your action, behaviour, decision, emotion, inaction and/or thought is not encouraging, remind yourself that you are more than your thoughts, desires and actions. You owe yourself some kindness.
The essence of self – reflection is to ensure that you use your findings to improve your decision-making techniques and actions.
This is why you self – reflect: to put things in perspective and exercise control.
Hold on to actively doing life; for it is your life.
Weekly Thread of Wisdom
- Personal Blog: This week I wrote on self - reflection and review. I shared snippets in this newsletter. You can read the whole article here.
- Writing things down doesn't have to be stressful. This video will help you learn basic writing tips. I hope you find it helpful.
- There is so much out there that should not be decided by speculations. In this beautiful piece, Sope Kingsley explained why you need to filter your emotions and thoughts, and how this will help you thrive in a world where all we need, is each other.
Book(s) of the Week
The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less by Barry Schwartz
In The Paradox of Choice, Barry Schwartz explains at what point choice becomes detrimental to our psychological and emotional well-being.
In accessible, engaging, and anecdotal prose, Schwartz shows how the dramatic explosion in choice—from the mundane to the profound challenges of balancing career, family, and individual needs—has paradoxically become a problem instead of a solution.
He also shows how our obsession with choice encourages us to seek that which makes us feel worse.
Newsletter of the Week
If you want to become a wiser creator and a more creative decision-maker, Daniel is your go - to guy. I recently found him on Twitter and I am intrigued at the awesome work he is doing with The Rational Creatives. Subscribe Here
Please let me know if this helps and feel free to reach out if need be!
Until next week <<First Name>>.
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