Laws are never as effective as habits.
~ Adlai Stevenson I
If your goal takes more than a month or two, you’d need more than just motivation. Motivation wanes over time: particularly when you are not doing your thing everyday.
Creating a system that translates motivation into actionable plans is an option. That system is called HABITS! It increases the shelf - life of your motivation and ensures that you invest in consistent routines, with triggers, rewards and punishments.
<<First Name>>, it is my pleasure to introduce a literary gourmet, author and editor, Victoria Olajide.
Victoria On Choosing The Right Lifelong Habits
Habit is a usual way of behaving; something that a person does often in a regular and repeated way. Your habits shape your personality. They become what people lookout for when they speak to you or of you.
They shape your first description, mold up your character and coin out the first sentence that comes up at an introduction. They differentiate: Hey, meet Miss Victoria, she’s a great writer from Hey, meet Miss Victoria, she’s an aspiring writer.
Your habits reflect in your reach, your goals, aspiration and association.
Habits define you, with or without your physical presence.
If you decide to rewrite history or damn history, whatever you choose to do consistently would shape that conviction.
If you desire to be a world class athlete in 5years, you cannot be caught eating unhealthy and skipping your exercise routine. Habits build your future, your present and reform your past.
It is the thin line between becoming and became.
What you can replay conveniently and keep doing till you die is called your; lifelong habits. These are certain things that have worked for timeless generations of intellectuals and achievers.
These roles and habits if taken seriously, would consciously mold you into your “became”
I will share with you,10 ordinary individuals who became extraordinary because of the habits they choose to adopt for themselves. These lessons are to shape your thoughts and give the right convictions towards success.
- Patience: Sheri Linn Dew is an American author, publisher, the Executive Vice President of Deseret Management Corporation, and Chief Executive Officer of the Dessert Book Company, headquartered in Salt Lake City, Utah.
She shared: Indeed, this life is a test. It is a test of many things – of our convictions and priorities, our faith and our faithfulness, our patience and our resilience, and in the end, our ultimate desires.
- Forgiveness: Nelson Mandela was a South African anti-apartheid revolutionary, political leader and philanthropist who served as President of South Africa from1994-1999. He was the country’s first black head of state and the first elected in a fully representative democratic election. It is difficult to find a more selfless, modern-day message of forgiveness than that of Nelson Mandela’s life story. After being imprisoned in South-Africa for 27years, simply for his protest of Apartheid, one might expect that he would hold a grudge, or a form of bitterness.
But he says: No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. They must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love. For love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite. - Long Walk To Freedom (1995)
- Honesty: Mary Robinson served as the seventh, and First Female President of Ireland from 1990-1997, and the United Nations High Commissioner for Human Rights.
She shared: at every stage, it’s [a] passion for human rights that has prompted me to speak truth to power, to stand up to bullies, to be prepared to criticize even the United States after 9/11. People told me it wouldn’t help my career as high commissioner, but it seemed much more important to do the job than to try to keep the job.
- Ignite Relationships: Sandra Day OConnor is a retired Associate Justice of the Supreme Court of the United States of America.
She shares: Treat people well. Don’t mislead them. Don’t be prickly. Don’t say things that are aggravating. Try to be as agreeable as you can be. Try to be helpful rather than harmful. Try to cooperate.
- Meditation: Russell Simmons is an American Business Magnate.
He shares: Every creative idea, every second of happiness, is from stillness, but the way you move around the world has nothing to do with the stillness in your heart. Moving meditation – that’s what we have to practice. It doesn’t mean you have to move slowly; you just have to see the world in slow motion.
- Humility: C.S. Lewis was a British Writer and Lay Theologian. He held academic positions in English Literature at both Oxford and Cambridge University.
He wrote: A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and of course, as long as you are looking down, you cannot see something that is above you.
- Hard work: David McCullough is an author, narrator, historian and lecturer.
He shares: When the founders wrote about life, liberty, and the pursuit of learning. The love of learning. The pursuit of improvement and excellence. I keep telling students, ’Find a work you love. Don’t concern yourself overly about how much money is involved or whether you’re ever going to be famous’…In Hard Work is Happiness.
- Self Discipline: Elon Musk is an engineer, industrial designer, technology entrepreneur and philanthropist.
Elon Musk will tell you that he puts his successes down to, among other things, his ability to make sacrifices and exercise discipline – skills which he believes allow “ordinary people to choose to be extra-ordinary.
- Courage: Maya Angelou was an author, poet and civil rights activist.
She shares: One isn’t born with courage. One develops it by doing small courageous things – in the way that if one sets out to pick up a 100- pound bag of rice, one would be advised to start with a five pound bag, then 10 pounds, then 20 pounds, and so forth, until one builds up enough muscle to lift the 100- pound bag. It’s the same way with courage. You do small courageous things that require some mental and spiritual exertion.
- Consistency: Dwayne Johnson (The Rock) is an American-Canadian actor, producer, businessman, retired professional wrestler, and former American football player.
He shares: Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.
Building the right habits consistently requires an amount of self-discipline, diligence and consistency. Which are in themselves, habits you should incorporate over time.
I believe that greatness is an intentional act to dignify oneself and also to bring to light the value you have found in you, overtime. The first step to steer greatness is to look inwards and find it, curled up inside waiting for a ray of recognition.
I hope that you find greatness, and choose the right habits to back you up.
Weekly Thread of Wisdom
- Personal Blog: Read my article on the compounding effect of habits here. It'd interest you to learn the dynamics of your habits, how to handle behavioural change and build better habits.
- Article: How Important Is Growth mirrors two common ways you can approach your goals and habits. Progressive or Consistent Habits? Read the article, share your thoughts with me and let me know which of the schedules would suit your goals.
Book(s) I Read this Week
Blank Sheet Happens by Bolu Onasanya
How do you manage and break out of the blank period when nothing is working? How do you soar in the face of interference? How about internalizing other people's success without being depressed or discouraged? How about drawing the line between perception and chasing shadows? You'd find answers in the Instagram themed book.
Newsletter of the Week
Brandon Zhang writes about growth, creativity, self - improvement and education. His consistency on the internet is contagious. It pushes me to be more consistent. Read His Letters Here.
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