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Workshop Saturday, Live Conversation, & Compassion

Last week, we conversed live online with our community (you!) about Unconditional Love and our individual orientations that we'll bring to the Unconditional Love Workshop this Saturday.

We emphasized that there is no one way to know Unconditional Love. Within our teaching team, we each have our own orientation:

Megumi moves from the inside out. Within herself and in her teaching, she starts with accepting the self and cultivating Unconditional Love within, then relates to the outer world from that place.

Tenya moves from the outside in. He practices functional unconditional love to meet the challenges of everyday interactions, bullies in traffic, politics and environmental issues.

Kimberly finds center. She recognizes when she or someone else is coming from an insecure place, and teaches how to identify the need for unconditional love and accept what is.

We're not the experts, and we're not here to tell you what Unconditional Love is. Our Unconditional Love Workshop creates a framework in a safe community, asks questions and offers interactive experiences. We open the door for you to explore and discover your own relationship with Unconditional Love.

Our intention is to give you insight and awareness of what Unconditional Love is, for you. We give you tools to practice and cultivate Unconditional Love with yourself, with others and with the world. We want you to be able to ask yourself, "Is this how I want to be?" and then if not, have the tools to be what you'd like to be. 

The Unconditional Love Workshop is your opportunity to live intentionally. It's an investment toward being healthier and happier. If you've been thinking about coming this Saturday, make the decision now to invest in yourself. Sign up here.

In the rest of this newsletter, we share our reflections on meeting challenges with compassion. Enjoy, and we hope to see you on Saturday!

With love,
Megumi, Kimberly and Tenya

Compassion to Meet Hurt
by Kimberly Ky
Compassion is genuine concern for another’s struggles. When we are compassionate, we strive to behave in a way that helps another become happier.

Now this is all fine and dandy, rainbows and flowers, but how capable are we of actually being this way? Especially in the most difficult situations?

We often think of compassion as something we practice when we see a person who is homeless asking for money for food, a fundraising relief after a natural disaster, or bullying. It is often us, looking at something outside of us.
The most difficult situation is when it happens inside our own life or in our own home.

I’ll start by giving you a scenario. First, think of your very best friend.

Got it? Now think of something horrific they could do to you to hurt you.

Now, imagine further that they lied to you about this. What is your emotional response? It may be, and probably is, hurt.

But you know what? Hurt people continue to hurt people. Loving people love people. So compassion is turning to love instead of continuing the hurt.

In the past in such a situation, I might have, quite ironically, hurt myself. I would withhold nourishment in the form of food or care. It was somehow easier to hate myself than to hate someone who I loved.
As I grew, I learned to take care of myself first, and to practice love for myself. I learned to practice care and love for myself constantly, not just when I am hurt. That way, when I am hurt, I have the willingness and ability to be soft with myself, to allow the feelings, and to be okay with feeling sad for myself. When I am done feeling those feelings, I feel more centered and able to handle a hurtful situation.
Now, facing a hurtful situation, I am able to be present with my full cup. The hurtful act does not take away from my cup. I do not have to take on the hurt. I choose how much power I give it. Because I am whole, perfect, and complete (see more on this in this newsletter's resource!). I am strong enough now to be lovingly present with my best friend and become curious about why this hurtful situation happened.

This may seem very difficult to actually practice in real life. We get very attached to our best friends and never want to think of them doing anything bad. But the truth is, it happens, because hurt happens.

Let’s zoom out. There is hurt all over the world, in every moment. Every single person has been hurt or is hurting and hurt will continue. The value in compassion is being able to rise above the hurt, to not let it weigh us down, so we can help other people come out of it too. Your best friend needs you more than you think. And you are more able to be compassionate than you think.

Next time you experience hurt from the outside, try loving on yourself first. Then from a full cup, ask yourself, what are they hurt about? And how can I be more loving to help them? How can we grow out of the pain together? This is how you can embody compassion. 
Recognizing Compassion, in Connection
by Megumi Burr-Tolliver

"Not enough" is popping up in me and all around me:
"I don't have a sweetheart."
"I don't have money for holiday gifts."
"I don't have time in my schedule."
"I haven't gotten enough done."

This morning as I sat with these struggles swirling in me, the common theme came into view. Recognizing the pattern made it manageable. These multiple and multifaceted challenges could be named, and arose from a very human angst: "not enough." Compassion began to flow through me. I knew my friends and I are not alone; rather, we are experiencing this very human story of "not enough."

Seeing the thread in the seemingly complex issues, and finding compassion and connection with others, I move back into alignment and knowing I am the generator of my experience.

We practice tools for seeing with compassion, in supportive community, in the Unconditional Love workshop. Join us this Saturday!

If the whole is taken away from the whole...

Purna means Whole, Complete, and Perfect in Sanskrit. Kimberly shares in this newsletter her practice of self-compassion that allows her, even in a hurtful situation, to be present with her full cup. She knows that she is whole, complete and perfect. When she sees her friend with compassion, she knows that her friend is whole, complete and perfect, even while hurt is present for both of them. When she asks herself how they can grow out of the pain together, she knows that the challenge they are facing is part of their whole, complete and perfect journey together.

The mantra, or verse, that inspired Purna's name is a reminder that all is actually whole, complete and perfect, and that even if something new arises or something is taken away, still what we have is whole, complete and perfect. We invite you to let this mantra percolate in your awareness and see how it shifts your experience of challenges.

- Megumi

This Saturday!

Unconditional Love Workshop
Connect from within to unblock expression.
The Unconditional Love Workshop guides compassionate awareness of what blocks expression, and guides loving connection from within.

You'll uncover the inner child and cultivate new ways of relating within and with others in a safe environment. Included are yoga for deep connection, guided meditation, games, and group discussion.

You'll come away empowered to stoke the love within, and radiant as this love naturally flows out into your surroundings.
Purna PCA is partnering with Intimacy through Yoga to bring you three teachers in one workshop: Kimberly Ky, Tenya Lee, & Megumi Burr-Tolliver.

Saturday, December 8, 1 - 5 pm
Union City, California
$50 donation

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